Are You Reliving the Same Year 10 Times? How to Stop the Loop Now
- AllStar Issy
- May 5
- 3 min read
Have you ever felt like you could accomplish more, or wanted to do more but couldn’t muster the motivation to take action?
If you answered yes, then you are telling the honest truth.
If you answered no, you’re deceiving yourself and will continue to be trapped in the same cycle.
Time, the ultimate apex of life, should not be feared. Embrace it, savor it, and learn from its passage.
What does a “cycle” or “loop” mean?
Let’s begin by clarifying that your “cycle” refers to your life patterns. These are the daily habits, behaviors, and actions that create your current cycle or loop. While it’s often suggested that we should be more positive and focused on our happiness, this approach is superficial. Why? Because you can’t simply put new armor on rusted metal; it will only rust the new armor. Instead, you must consciously eliminate your old ways of doing things and intentionally focus on creating new ones.
“You can’t simply put new armor on rusted metal; it will only rust the new armor.”
What are the reasons behind people getting stuck in a cycle and why?
Let’s begin with the beginning. When you were born, you were pure and curious. As you grew up, you learned the ways of the world—how to get along with others, what is acceptable or unacceptable, how to behave, and many other things. Most of the time, people impose their perspectives on you so that you can live life according to their teachings. There are pros and cons to this for two reasons. First, they teach you how to live an average life and conform to societal standards. Second, they listen to you, observe you, and help you develop into the person you desire to be. However, many people get stuck in a loop because we were taught to think before acting in the wrong ways, suppress our desires, and follow the rules rather than our own beliefs. As we grow up, we start to identify with our anxiety, hesitation, and fear. We miss out on opportunities to talk to that beautiful girl, speak up for ourselves or others, or ask for that raise we know we deserve. The loop isn’t caused by external factors; it’s an internal struggle that we must acknowledge. What we run from becomes the very thing we seek and find. Ultimately, we always get what we want.
Your normal is YOUR story! If you don’t like what you see, hear, or feel, then change it and break the cycles NOW.
How can you break the loop in your story?
I’ll simplify this for you. The best way to break the cycle in your story is to consciously focus on the present moment every day. This means you must stop pretending you don’t know what you want. For instance, if you see an attractive woman and feel a pull to talk to her, do it. The secret is to take inspired action. Every day, every hour, every minute, every moment is an opportunity to break the cycle. It can manifest in various ways, such as speaking up for yourself, confronting someone, flirting, going the extra mile at work, and so on. You must be honest with yourself and listen to your true self.
This has been an AllStar exclusive. Remember, authenticity is the new sexy and to shine within, is to shine without.
For a deeper dive into breaking your loop, I’ve linked a podcast of Johnny & I speaking on breaking the cycle in your story.
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